Make This Your Year Of Independence 

If you want heartburn try eating everything.

No matter what you do you will not be able to please everyone.  So why try? You know coming out of last year I felt the need for detoxification.  No, it is not what you think! I wanted to detoxify from people.

Yes, people.  I have watched others,  including myself, at times fall viticm to people pleasing. I have allowed some people knowingly and unknowingly to control parts of my life. It is one of those behavioural patterns that left me scratching my head.  I would sometimes say to myself, “what were you thinking signing on to that crap.”

People pleasing can become counter-productive to your success, if not, checked at the door.  I find myself becoming so irritated when I see people allowing themselves to become someones doormat for a, “that’s a good boy!” 

I have witnessed over the years the destructive effects of people that have loss a since of themselves because they have allowed others to control their lives.  Witnessing adults that can’t make sound decisions because they are so afraid of being singled out and ostracized is a sobering reminder, people pleasing is a destructive behavior. 

Possessing within oneself the strength to say, “No” is a powerful and sought after quality in my opinion.  To have ownership of ones life is a must.  It is a sobering reminder that we must harold and respect appropriate boundaries for our lives. 

I believe that if we live our lives to please God then we won’t spend so much time trying to please others.

So I have come up with my mantra and you can rock it too…,

“It’s time to detoxify.”

 I have made up my mind that I will rid myself of hurtful and harmful habits and emotions such as people pleasing.

People pleasing can be extremely harmful to our mental health and self-esteem. You don’t have to look any further than social media to see the devasting effects of people addiction.  

Likes and dislikes have become the new form of people pleasing and some people will almost kill themselves to trend in likes.

We have to combat and confront such harmful patterns of self-deprivation and ineptitude.  We must begin to form and practice good habits of self-love. We must strive to see ourselves in a positive light.

How we see ourselves is so important to how we treat and let others treat us.  Why should someone else respect you when you don’t respect yourself? We must practice good habits and detoxify our minds from the grips of people pleasing.

Serving others and caring for them with respect and love can be extremely valuable.  However, when we allow ourselves to be self-serving trying to please others to please ourselves, we cause great emotional and mental harm to ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to see people happy.

The problem comes in when we allow other peoples desires to become idols to us.

For example: We can’t sleep unless everyone is pleased with our decisions.

This kind of behaviour is a problem. We should do our best to be fair to all. But the key is not to lose ourselves in pleasing others to the point of making idols out of them.

Stop waiting for people to sanction your every move. We must trust God to direct us and put the right people in our paths to take us to the next level. 

Pray while you’re moving.  Make a God sought decision for your life by prayer, thoughtfulness and trusting that God will not steer you wrong.

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Let’s Get Back To Being The Church (Also with Audio)

Sitting here at my desk scrolling through the blog reader I’ve come across some interesting headlines.  Some of the headlines where positive and others where not so positive.  

However, the conclusion I have drawn while reading these headlines were that the church and the outside world is in trouble.

The Church in my opinion has become so self consumed with keeping sin out that we no longer recognize the speck in our own eyes.  

We no longer understand that Christianity is not a club for the elite in Christ but a place for the broken, humble and the weak.  

Yes, homosexuality is wrong but so is adultery, looking at people lustfully, lying, stealing and being lazy are sins as well…  I am reading alot of things that are totally lost of love.  I believe that marriage is between and man and a woman.  I believe homosexuality is not of God.

 But I also believe living with a woman or a man that is not your spouse is sin, or looking at pornography…etc..  God hates all sin and I hope we remember that.

I guess I am getting tired of the all the crap that we are calling the church.  We have operated in so much anger and self-righteousness at times, all in the name of Jesus.  Have we lost the love of Christ in trying to enforce the Bible?  

We should be running to open our doors for the lost sheep that have found themselves broken, lost and confused.  But it seems that we are saying if the one lost sheep doesn’t look and smell like us then you are on your own.

One of the most segregated times in our nation is on Sunday morning.  We have Black church, White church…race church.  God is not for division.  Jesus calls of the Body Of Christ not a body in Christ.

Sin is sin no matter how we cut it. But love is love that covers the cuts of sin.  What do you mean?  Good question!  I mean stop saying get away homosexual, get way drunkard and start saying come here my brother and sister and I will show you a better way.

We must be more transparent.  None of us that are saved were saved all of our lives and we had somethings that brought us to our knees as well.  

Let us get back to the business of the Church and stop pointing the finger and and directing the lost back to Jesus.

He found us didn’t He?

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Overcoming Pitfalls


This Episode is on Overcoming Pitfalls.  Life will offer to us many things but you can trust that you will face pitfalls.

Nehemiah faced his own set of pitfalls in rebuilding of the wall.  Pitfalls are those unsuspecting traps and snares that come in and turn our lives upside down.  

In this episode I talk about how to overcome our pitfalls in our lives using the biblical text from Nehemiah.

So when your time comes you will know according to the Word of God how to overcome your pitfalls.  

Join me in this teaching entitled, “Overcoming Pitfalls.” 

On my 90 second spot which is a platform where I like to highlight great local talent…We are highlighting Author Pastor Charles E. Maldon’s book:

This is one of four of his books.  This is a good read.  It is so important to know who you are in God.

So check out this episode here and comment on what you think…Thanks and God bless.

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Featured Blogger

Check out this blog post on Reddit Christians.

I normally share my platform but this time someone shared with me. I was ask to be a featured blogger on this site. 

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They have some phenomenal writers here.  I thank God I got to join such a great crop of bloggers…blogging for the Kingdom.

Trust God

This a phenomenal post.  I loved Mr. Jennings Jason transparency concerning his hardship.  

However, the part I loved is when he had that all so important encounter with our Lord Jesus Christ.  

Click the link to connect to this great post.  Try His blog A Word on the Word.

Trust God!…Author Jennings Jason

Why Happiness Alone Can’t Sustain You

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One of the happiest moments in life was when I realized that life was not defined by happiness but by joy in Jesus.-The Blueprint-

Happiness is such a controversial word in my opinion because many people find themselves imprisoned by the meaning of this word. Truly if we were to analyze happiness we would realize that it is a state of being not an absolute. Happiness is circumstantial at best. 

Consequently, it is a feeling solely based on conditions, never concrete. If you were to show me 5 people that were happy…I could show you 5 more that were unhappy because of trying circumstances and events that were out of their control.

Happiness is an emotion that is always changing. It lacks depth and the deeply planted roots needed to build a stable foundation upon.  
What do you mean?  Thanks for asking… Happiness says in essences if I feel happy today, if everything around me is conducive to my happiness, then guess what?… I feel happy today. But by some chance my circumstances don’t provide me an atmosphere that is conducive to my happiness. ..then somebody better watch out, now I am on the warpath because I am not happy today.

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Happiness is predicated on condition not facts. We may not feel happy today but God is still good. Fact not condition.

 Consider this? We can wake up in the morning and hear the birds chirping,  the angels singing because we feel happy today.  However, if life hands us a plate of disappointments then there is a good chance that we will no longer feel happy. That is chilling right?

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We can’t build our proverbial houses on happiness because eventually they will colasp.

The conditions of life can and will alter our attitudes and possibly rob us of our happiness if we will allow our feelings to dictate to us the direction for our lives.

 The seesaw, (The Feeling of Happiness) has claimed many marriages, friendships and has weakend our relationships with God. The feeling of euphoria that was once present when we received Jesus over time will leave us.

Have you ever heard people say, “I don’t feel saved or we have just fallen out of love?” Can I say this? Love and Salvation are not feelings they are choices. We choose to love our spouses or not. We choose to live submitted and consecrated lives to God or not.

Nehemiah had to remind the Israelites when Ezra was reading the word of God that it wasn’t a time to weep but it was a time to rejoice. He had to remind them that their strength was found in the joy of the Lord and that His words are spirit and they are alive.

We too must realize that when I am happy God has my back, when my enemies are present God has my back and when I am feeling sad God has my back.   We must realize that we are not defined by our happiness. When we dont feel happy we are still strong because we have His joy, evelasting joy! It doesn’t matter about our conditions because God never, ever changes, he is always absolute. 

Nehemiah 8:10 kjv

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Practice these every day

AL stover,

I loved the positive energy of your post. These are some great key principles that we can benefit from to become impactful in our everyday lives…Thanks so much.

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