Make This Your Year Of Independence 

If you want heartburn try eating everything.

No matter what you do you will not be able to please everyone.  So why try? You know coming out of last year I felt the need for detoxification.  No, it is not what you think! I wanted to detoxify from people.

Yes, people.  I have watched others,  including myself, at times fall viticm to people pleasing. I have allowed some people knowingly and unknowingly to control parts of my life. It is one of those behavioural patterns that left me scratching my head.  I would sometimes say to myself, “what were you thinking signing on to that crap.”

People pleasing can become counter-productive to your success, if not, checked at the door.  I find myself becoming so irritated when I see people allowing themselves to become someones doormat for a, “that’s a good boy!” 

I have witnessed over the years the destructive effects of people that have loss a since of themselves because they have allowed others to control their lives.  Witnessing adults that can’t make sound decisions because they are so afraid of being singled out and ostracized is a sobering reminder, people pleasing is a destructive behavior. 

Possessing within oneself the strength to say, “No” is a powerful and sought after quality in my opinion.  To have ownership of ones life is a must.  It is a sobering reminder that we must harold and respect appropriate boundaries for our lives. 

I believe that if we live our lives to please God then we won’t spend so much time trying to please others.

So I have come up with my mantra and you can rock it too…,

“It’s time to detoxify.”

 I have made up my mind that I will rid myself of hurtful and harmful habits and emotions such as people pleasing.

People pleasing can be extremely harmful to our mental health and self-esteem. You don’t have to look any further than social media to see the devasting effects of people addiction.  

Likes and dislikes have become the new form of people pleasing and some people will almost kill themselves to trend in likes.

We have to combat and confront such harmful patterns of self-deprivation and ineptitude.  We must begin to form and practice good habits of self-love. We must strive to see ourselves in a positive light.

How we see ourselves is so important to how we treat and let others treat us.  Why should someone else respect you when you don’t respect yourself? We must practice good habits and detoxify our minds from the grips of people pleasing.

Serving others and caring for them with respect and love can be extremely valuable.  However, when we allow ourselves to be self-serving trying to please others to please ourselves, we cause great emotional and mental harm to ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to see people happy.

The problem comes in when we allow other peoples desires to become idols to us.

For example: We can’t sleep unless everyone is pleased with our decisions.

This kind of behaviour is a problem. We should do our best to be fair to all. But the key is not to lose ourselves in pleasing others to the point of making idols out of them.

Stop waiting for people to sanction your every move. We must trust God to direct us and put the right people in our paths to take us to the next level. 

Pray while you’re moving.  Make a God sought decision for your life by prayer, thoughtfulness and trusting that God will not steer you wrong.

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Your Date Must Be Qualified Not Just Cute

Relationships are extremely important. Believe it or not choosing a partner will arguably be one of the most important decisions of your life. 

It amazes me how we can be so focused on money, clothes and carreers and totally be disengaged with the quality of our souls and who we choose to live in our space.

 Just because she is beautiful doesn’t make her qualified to walk with you.  Just because he is handsome shouldn’t give him the key to your heart.

 You must be qualified!

Treat dating and choosing a partner like finding your dream job.  Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions upfront.

Keep this in mind? Who you allow in your space will impact your life.

But what do I know? It’s is only your life we’re talking about right? 😉

 

Overcoming Pitfalls


This Episode is on Overcoming Pitfalls.  Life will offer to us many things but you can trust that you will face pitfalls.

Nehemiah faced his own set of pitfalls in rebuilding of the wall.  Pitfalls are those unsuspecting traps and snares that come in and turn our lives upside down.  

In this episode I talk about how to overcome our pitfalls in our lives using the biblical text from Nehemiah.

So when your time comes you will know according to the Word of God how to overcome your pitfalls.  

Join me in this teaching entitled, “Overcoming Pitfalls.” 

On my 90 second spot which is a platform where I like to highlight great local talent…We are highlighting Author Pastor Charles E. Maldon’s book:

This is one of four of his books.  This is a good read.  It is so important to know who you are in God.

So check out this episode here and comment on what you think…Thanks and God bless.

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Strategic Thinking


Spend time thinking life through.  I have discovered that thinking with strategy in mind has become a lost art.  

We will be surprised how much better our lives can become with just a little strategic thinking.

 Strategic thinking entails seeing life in a way that is clear and concise (one thought at a time). This kind of thinking can be cumbersome. If you are anything like me I like to just do. 

However, the just do mentality has got me in trouble often.  I have become to appreciate strategic thinking. I love to mind map.

Mind Mapping to figure out my thoughts.

When we think strategically it helps us to become more mindful of our duties and responsibilities.  Strategic thinking also helps us rid our minds of the clutter, unwanted thoughts and time wasters that only comes to slow us down.

In this post I will be dealing with only one thought technique in this post.  Okay here it is…thought technique #1.

  1. Make yourself think not react to thoughts.

This principle is easier said then done.  Thinking must be an intentional part of our lives.  This is something that I have not mastered but constantly work at.

Our minds naturally wants to save the world, go shopping, make millions and find happiness and excitement all at once. 

 This approach to thinking sounds good but sorry this is not reality.  My wife tells me all the time, “Mike you can’t do everything.” And you know what she is right!

This is exactly why we must make ourselves think on purpose.  We must choose a direction, vision, goal or purpose we want to flush out and go with it.  

We must make ourselves think Strategic.  This type of thinking is learned, practiced and learned some more.

Well,  I am going to stop there.  I have been making my post short on purpose because I think it’s better that way.😂😂😂

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I Don’t Want To Wag My Tale. Bring Back Sentiment To Blogging.

 Maybe I am the only one that feels this way about the blogosphere but blogging has become more and more mechanical and losing it’s finest that made it so charmingly delightful.

I can’t place my finger on the moment where blogging which was so mysterious and intriguing lost it inability to connect with the commoner but in my opinion it has left us.

The commoner who loves to read about vacations and view photos of and places, family and friends.  The commoner who loves to check and scan through the reader for human moments….

And you know sometimes, I feel like the consumer who has just realized that the secretary that answered the phone has just been replaced by an automated system.😲😲😢😢😭😭

UGH….COME On Man…Can I speak to a human

Important is the human touch in the life of a child.  Katherine Harmon wrote an article in Scientific American and she said, 

The stark institutional isolation prevalent in the orphanages of some countries might have mostly melted away decades ago, but many babies and young children all over the world still grow up in environments where touch and emotional engagement are lacking. Many children who have not had ample physical and emotional attention are at higher risk for behavioral, emotional and social problems as they grow up. 

And I believe important is the human touch in the life of a blog and a successful blogosphere . 

However, frighteningly enough this is how I feel concerning the blogosphere today. We have become so self absorbed and mechanical in our interactions towards posting our great creations that we have lost that human element.

The blog reader has become like an orphanage that has lost its ability to interact with its children in order to preserve the human touch.

I have gone on other sites only to witness a dumping ground for blogs and videos.  People have become so consumed by their own self imaged that they have forgotten the blog community.

 Does anyone really read other people’s blogs anymore? Or do we just drop off and walk away never to think of anyone else’s plight? Just something to think about! Hmm…what could it be?

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The Three Commandments Of Blogging:

  1. Don’t write blogs you aren’t willing to read.
  2. Be considerate to your readers and don’t write a book.
  3. Share your platform and the blogs you love with others.

    So in conclusion, we need to bring back community in blogging.  Don’t just blog for what you can get out of it! Don’t just be mechanical but do unto others as you would have them to do unto you.

    There is nothing wrong with self promotion…I love it but if you are the only general that can make for a very lonely existence.

    Becoming A Finisher 

    This is a preview of an interview I had with Businesswoman, Executive, Mother, Wife and Accomplished Organist Nicole Walker. 

    Link to the preview of Become A Finisher.

    We had a conversation on Becoming A Finisher.  One very important ingredient to success is having the will and know how to be a good finisher.  

    We also in this interview discussed how to build a good resume and how to interview well.  To listen to the entire interview click the link below.

    Becoming A Finisher

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