Your Date Must Be Qualified Not Just Cute

Relationships are extremely important. Believe it or not choosing a partner will arguably be one of the most important decisions of your life. 

It amazes me how we can be so focused on money, clothes and carreers and totally be disengaged with the quality of our souls and who we choose to live in our space.

 Just because she is beautiful doesn’t make her qualified to walk with you.  Just because he is handsome shouldn’t give him the key to your heart.

 You must be qualified!

Treat dating and choosing a partner like finding your dream job.  Don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions upfront.

Keep this in mind? Who you allow in your space will impact your life.

But what do I know? It’s is only your life we’re talking about right? 😉



If Not Now…When


Why wait to remove the dirt that is blocking your road in life? Start your removal today.  What is it that is blocking your growth, success, peace and tranquillity? Fix your focus on that thing today that is causing you difficulties and start shoveling.


Start preparing the road for your destiny!

Tomorrow is in no ways promised, so do all you can do today…  Call that relative, spouse, friend, co-worker and fix that relationship.  If not now then when? Oh when you get your head in the game? When you get your life together? When they become nicer and more responsible?

I am sorry this is not a winning plan for success. This approach will more likely set you up for failure. Who told you that you had one last phone call? Who told you that you had time to mend your broken relationships? Who told you that she would be waiting for you? Who told you that he would always be there?

I have seen men and women who have lost out on love because they kept looking at the spouse they wanted tomorrow and passed on that spouse of today. I have seen people pass up on promotions because they thought tomorrows promotion would be better then today’s and they didn’t get another opportunity until 5 years later.

Master Today’s Possibilities

If we can’t handle the horse today, what makes us think we will be able to ride the bull tomorrow.

The longer we wait to embrace today, the further we get from making any real progress. Tomorrow will always be filled with possibilities and unrealized and untapped potential…However, what good will that do us today? So the question must be, “If not now then when?”


Enjoy your reward today!

Begin to look today sqaure in the eyes and say, “I am going to make some progress today.

Depression you had me yesterday but today I am getting out of this bed, combing my hair, shaving my face and putting on my clothes and motivating myself to win.

You may have suffered disappointments but that doesn’t give you a reason to quit, it just provides you with more time to plan. 

We all have challenges and frustrations.

You my not have done well on your test yesterday but we must take the mindset that,  “I have a date with the library today” instead of saying, “Well I guess I will have better luck next time.” NO put that car in gear and drive it…

We may have spoken to our spouses harshly on yesterday but we must become proactive, praying for more patience, humility and ask them for forgiveness and then put into practice Christ-like love today.

Today, today, today.

Since God has given you today make something  of it… even if it is only making a walk way at least that’s a sign of progress. 

Someone may say, ” I am disabled and I can’t move…”  Well if you are reading this post then you can think and within your sphere God has given you too grace to win…maybe in a different way but you can be a force today as well.

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Hand In Hand (Poetry)


Mi Amor

I went, She went,

To a place, a destination prepared just for us to meet,

Though I never knew her,

She went, a college student sent,

Planted by God, on a mission to shine,

I went, escaping the madness of life to a place of calm and solace,

I finally had my own, a place to call home,

Chosen were we,

I found my calm on a snowy February day in blizzard like conditions,

Knee high up to my thigh in snow,

But not even a blizzard could hold me back from my place of destiny,

Short in stature, beautiful jet black hair down her back, smile that could replace the sun,

Rolled into the place of destiny around about December, you see!

She arrived 2 months earlier than me,
I said, “this had to be destiny”, she lived three floors above me!

She never knew my name, never thought one time that destiny had chosen her to be,

But I understood the time was now,

If I was going to wake up to sun shine for the rest of my life,

I had to do something, I’ve never done,

I had to say something, I’ve never said,

When God presented me with a shot,

I went, She went,

We went together!

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5 Places That Are Sure To Wow Your Gal Or Guy On Valentines Day


Delicious Is An Understatement

Yes, it’s that time again. No, I am not talking about Tax Season…Well even though it is Tax Season…But I am talking about…ahhh wait for it, wait for it, here it comesValentines Day!!!

Okay, okay stop sweating! I got your back! I hear someone saying, “But who has yours?” Hmmm…that’s a good question! I will have to ask my back but since it doesn’t speak I am in trouble…😂
Alright here it is, here is “the short and skinny.”

As we draw closer to that special day, you may not have had time to research some romantic and not so romantic spots for Valentine’s day. So, I took the time to compile a list of 5 places that I believe will be a sure hit on this Valentine’s day…


A nice brunch spot in downtown Annapolis MD.

1. Miss Shirleys

Whether you are looking for breakfast, lunch or just want to have a romantic dinner, look no further then Miss Shirley’s. A romantic spot nestled in downtown Annapolis or in Baltimores Water District (Inner Harbor).

This place will be a sure hit with your significant other, spouse or a group of friends. Miss Shirley’s has an extensive menu from Coconut Cream Stuff French Toast to my favorite Benne Seed Chicken ‘N Waffles.

A quaint cafe style restaurant with a retro feel. The average meal for two is about $45.00, no reservation needed but trust me planning is a must. So keep Miss Shirley’s as a must try on this Valentines Day. Miss Shirleys is bound to impress your Valentine on this Valentine’s Day.

From the savory brunch spot nestled in Downtown Annapolis MD to the romantic Waterside of the Baltimore Harbor you haven’t experienced romance like this Bar and Grille.


A great place to eat.


Not your average Bar and Grille...!

2. Del Friscos Grille

From Santa Monica, CA to Washington, DC nothing says, “Wow me” like Del Frisco’s. It is only minutes away from the Whitehouse.

In the heart of Washington, DC’s bustling metropolis it is a little side of heaven. Just blocks away from the Verizon Center.

Whether you are a Capital’s fan or root for the Washington Wizards, “Del Frisco’s” no matter which location, it is sure to be a fan favorite.

The Upscale Bar and Grille screams of youthfulness, romance and vigor. You will be the talk of the town with the vale right at the curbside for only $10.00. Please don’t scratch the skateboard…lol 😂

Dinner for two will run you about $50.00, but this doesn’t include beverages. They have a great menu that includes Jumbo Lump Crab Cakes, Awesome Burgers and OMG Cheese Steak Egg rolls…
That’s what I said…But don’t knock them to you try them, you will be hooked.

So if you are a big Strawberry Lemonade drinker like myself then crack open the piggy bank and get your allowance.

However, hands down, Del Frisco’s is a sure fire way to solidify your Valentines Day success.

Next up on our list is what I refer to as the “King’s ransom.” This place is near Tyson’s Corner where you can eat and then shop for that lovely box of Chocolates or that Diamond Ring. Oops did I say that…!


A little taste of Brazil.


A great dining experience!

3. Chimas Brazilian Steakhouse

If you have never experienced a 5 ⭐ dining experience then try Chima’s. This place is a spectacular night spot but a little on the pricey side. Dinner for two at the “Taste of Brazil” will run you about $136.00…

This place is not for novest, nor the faint at heart. They say Virginia is for lovers. I took my wife here because no price is to high for the woman I love. However, if she was just someone I liked, Chimas wouldn’t be that place for us. “Would you like fries with that shake?” 😷

But with that being said, “You know what you can spend and who you want to spend it on.”

Chimas gives you full control of your dining experience with the keys to the meat locker. You are given a two sided card, one side is color coded green and the otherside color coded red. Flip that card on green side and say, “baby eat your $68.00 dollars worth.” Lol. You notice I never said flip it to red…

There are so many different variations of meats that are held on skewers for your chosen.

This night will not be soon forgotten. With Chimas romantic ambience, good food and great service you will diffently leave full and soon wanting more.


Great dining, good food and delicious cheese cake.


A guilty pleasure

Nothing yells vintage like The Cheesecake Factory.

I think this establishment invented the Valentines Day dinner for two. ☺ The Cheesecake Factory with it’s beautiful ambience and it’s ambitious scenery is a sure shot spot for a breathtaking evening.

The Cheesecake Factory is one of those places that gives you an all in one experience. First, you have your date. Secondly, the menu is extensive and affordable the service is good and the deserts are awesome. Do I need to say more?

So if you are looking for a great spot not to expensive and not to cheap then look no further then the Cheesecake Factory. Trust me you won’t be disappointed. Dinner for two should only set you back about $50.00.

However, it will be well worth the smile you will get from your spouse, friend or significant other when you have dined sumptuously at the Cheesecake Factory.


There is no place like home

5. Home

There is no place like home. Curl up by the fire place or by the flaming barrel in your backyard…lol. But seriously there is no place like home.

Your night doesn’t have to suffer because you chose to be romantic at home. This is where planners thrive and creativity rules.

No one knows your home like you do so use your imagination, be bold and fearless in your planning on this Valentines Day.

Here are a few suggestions for a night at home:

1. Call your favorite restaurant and place an to go order. This will take careful planning on your part. Make sure to allot yourself time not only to pick up the food but build in time to set up as well. “The element of surprise is a great companion to romance.”

2. Buy you some inexpensive table clothes to spruce up the mood. You can get these items at Walmart, Target or some place like Party City.

3. Get you some flowers. I tend to like Safeway or Giants flowers. The person in the floral department always makes the floral presentation look professional and beautiful.

4. Get a heart felt card something that really speaks to how you feel about your Valentine.

5. Get you some candles and some inexpensive decorations. I like Michaels or A.C Moore or any arts and crafts store for these items. You can find some decorations very cheap, something that says be my valentine.

6. Hang your decorations around the house this will add that element of romance and show your significant other you care.

7. Get you some sticky notes and write on them all the nice things you can think of about that person and put it on a mirror or a collage.

Well these are 5 places, done right that will give you that wow factor on this Valentines Day.

I hope everything goes well. Send me a comment? Let me know if this post or any others have been helpful to you.

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5 Helpful Valentines Day Do’s and Don’ts to Safely Guide You Through The Holiday


5 things you should do and not do on this Valentines Day.Whether you are single or married these 5 helpful hints can keep you out of the dog house or the litter box whichever you prefer.

1. Don’t procrastinate:


OMG…This is one of the deadly sins of V-Day(Valentines Day). I will call this the first and most dangerous of the five Do’s and Don’ts of Valentines Day, procrastination . When we procrastinate this says to our spouse or significant other, “you are not important enough to me.” Also, it communicates a very clear message, I am too lazy to care enough about you to take the time to plan.
I have discovered in my experiences with procrastination “You snooze, you lose and the early bird gets the worm”.
When we procrastinate we set ourselves up for failure and also bad gift purchases.

Honey Happy Valentine’s Day. Do you like your new microwave I got it on sale? What!

2. Don’t make excuses actually plan something.


Nothing says romance like planning. Creativity on Valentines Day can give you major points with your significant other. This is something I learned from my wife…Babe if you are reading this, see I am listening… Lol.
Oftentimes, this tends to happen with married couples or people who have been together for awhile. We can take each other for granted and stop putting in the work that won the heart of your significant other. We just stop planning and take on this anything goes mentality that will surely land us in the dog house or litter box on Valentines day.
Do actually take time to plan something on Valentines Day and leave the excuses behind…well the dog ate the chocolate… You know Lady Fuzzy clawed my cards and they were nice too. Oh man I really love this excuse some people settle for it all the time. Notice I didn’t say, “fall for it.” Valentines Day is a commercial holiday, they only want your money. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah…are you tired yet, because I am worn out listening to that lame excuse. Haha.. Well if you think the stores want your money, your spouse or significant other wants to be pampered too. So don’t worry so much about the commercial holiday put your energy into making your spouse or your significant other happy. Nothing says turn off like excuses.

3. Don’t contact an Ex to keep you company.


Why rekindle a flame only to start a forest fire? You guys are exes for a reason right? “Desperate times calls for desperate measure.” What am I saying here? I am saying that as a single you may get lonely on Valentines Day, but compromising your self worth is a heavy price to pay anytime but especially for a day. So be smart and resist the temptation to indulge in an activity you will soon regret.
However, Do indulge. When you are feeling lonely and desperate get you a good desert. Yes I said it! Nothing relaxes the mind like a good desert, good book, great movie and friends without benefits. Don’t put yourself in a position to lose. Do indulge in a guilty pleasure though, a little or a lot of hot apple pie and ice cream. Do you know what the benefits will be to having not sold out? You won’t feel guilty or used in the morning but you will feel full…Lol…

Whats a few pounds compared to a lifetime of pain?

4. Don’t break the bank spend your money wisely.


No one likes a cheapskate but a Frugal Fanny or a Thrifty Tyrone is Okay. I believe the key to finding a good gift on Valentines Day is not spending a mint but spending time getting to know the person you are buying for. This will help you in the long run.
What if we have just start seeing each other? Good question…Just play it safe. Keep your gift purchases to a minimum, something like $50.00 or $60.00, you can’t go wrong there; furthmore, that’s enough to get you a card, flowers and dinner without sending the wrong message.
But Don’t be scared to spend some money. No one likes a cheapskate or a freeloader. So be prepared to show her a nice time but don’t break the bank it is only one day.

5. Don’t forget to celebrate you.


What am I saying here? I am saying, “Don’t let life define you, you define it.” Don’t sit by the phone waiting for it to ring, waiting on some person to validate you. No! Celebrate you regardless of who calls your phone or doesn’t call your phone. Love yourself! Know your worth! Unfortunately, during this Valentines Day season we can easily forget our worth all in the name of convenience and compromise. But this Valentines Day purpose in your heart and mind, that you will not allow yourself to be used or abused but you will be celebrated. You may be alone but learn to celebrate you. God has invested too much into you for you to live in depression and desperation all because of one day. Celebrate you because God made you fearfully and wonderfully in His image and His likeness. Know that you are powerful, strong, smart and you are valuable.
So on this Valentines Day: don’t procrastinate, don’t make excuses actually plan something, don’t contact an Ex to keep you company, don’t break the bank spend wisely and remember celebrate you.

Let me know if there’s anything else that can be a help and also if it is helpful to you let me know also.

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