Make This Your Year Of Independence 

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No matter what you do you will not be able to please everyone. So why try? You know coming out of last year I felt the need for detoxification. No, it is not what you think! I wanted to detoxify from people.
Yes, people. I have watched others, including myself, at times fall viticm to people pleasing. I have allowed some people knowingly and unknowingly to control parts of my life. It is one of those behavioural patterns that left me scratching my head. I would sometimes say to myself, “what were you thinking signing on to that crap.”
People pleasing can become counter-productive to your success, if not, checked at the door. I find myself becoming so irritated when I see people allowing themselves to become someones doormat for a, “that’s a good boy!”
I have witnessed over the years the destructive effects of people that have loss a since of themselves because they have allowed others to control their lives. Witnessing adults that can’t make sound decisions because they are so afraid of being singled out and ostracized is a sobering reminder, people pleasing is a destructive behavior.
Possessing within oneself the strength to say, “No” is a powerful and sought after quality in my opinion. To have ownership of ones life is a must. It is a sobering reminder that we must harold and respect appropriate boundaries for our lives.
I believe that if we live our lives to please God then we won’t spend so much time trying to please others.
So I have come up with my mantra and you can rock it too…,

“It’s time to detoxify.”

I have made up my mind that I will rid myself of hurtful and harmful habits and emotions such as people pleasing.

People pleasing can be extremely harmful to our mental health and self-esteem. You don’t have to look any further than social media to see the devasting effects of people addiction.

Likes and dislikes have become the new form of people pleasing and some people will almost kill themselves to trend in likes.

We have to combat and confront such harmful patterns of self-deprivation and ineptitude. We must begin to form and practice good habits of self-love. We must strive to see ourselves in a positive light.

How we see ourselves is so important to how we treat and let others treat us. Why should someone else respect you when you don’t respect yourself? We must practice good habits and detoxify our minds from the grips of people pleasing.

Serving others and caring for them with respect and love can be extremely valuable. However, when we allow ourselves to be self-serving trying to please others to please ourselves, we cause great emotional and mental harm to ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to see people happy.

The problem comes in when we allow other peoples desires to become idols to us.

For example: We can’t sleep unless everyone is pleased with our decisions.

This kind of behaviour is a problem. We should do our best to be fair to all. But the key is not to lose ourselves in pleasing others to the point of making idols out of them.
Stop waiting for people to sanction your every move. We must trust God to direct us and put the right people in our paths to take us to the next level.

Pray while you’re moving. Make a God sought decision for your life by prayer, thoughtfulness and trusting that God will not stir you wrong.

Mike Anthoni host of the Urban Christian Podcast: Making An Impact Christian Podcast Show

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Eradicating the Darkness Within

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The Bible poses the question to every believer: “What fellowship does the light have with darkness?”

This question to me is one that is challenging, easy to comprehend but hard to answer. You maybe asking the question: Why is this question hard to answer?

My response is this question is hard to answer because there is a certain level of darkness that if we are truthful with ourselves…we like. There is a place in us, a behavior we participate in that if the truth could be told, we haven’t yet fully surrendered it to God.

This area that I am talking about is an area of darkness that we’ve allowed willingly at times to break our fellowship with the light.

I am not judging and please don’t judge me! However, have you ever felt like the Apostle Paul when he declares,

The good I would do, I don’t do and that which I don’t want to do I find myself doing?”

This inner darkness which is not sinister, or destructive to others can and is destructive to our fellowship with the God.

So, what I realized is this when Christ died on the cross and rose with all power in his hand he gave us the power (Holy Spirit) to bridge that gap of separation and create fellowship.

So, what I have tried to do is understand that there is the power of darkness (sin) working within me. However, according to the Apostle Paul he says with the mind I have the ability and the power to override the darkness because of what Jesus Christ did on the Cross.

Let’s talk a look at this scripture:

Romans 7:24

If you want to read it in its entirety then it is Rms 7:24. However, I wanted to focus on the word mind.

In my opinion, the word mind is so important here in this text. The word mind reminds us that we have a responsibility and the power to override the darkness within by placing our minds under the control of God’s word.

When we allow our minds to be under control of God’s word we can shed light on the darkness that resides within. We can make this part of us that is not surrendered to God’s authority obey Him

But this approach to eradicating the darkness within will take a clear, concise decision by us. This decision that we must make is one that loves God more then sin, accepts that God knows best and has a try desire to be the best for God.

Make today the day that you tell the darkness within,

“No more from hear on out I am turning the lights on.”

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Finding Peace In God

In this passage of scripture the prophet Elijah was searching for peace from within. Elijah in chapter 18th had just demonstrated the power of God by calling fire down from heaven, killing the 450 false prophets Baal.
However, what he failed to realize is the Devil is not of afraid of the power of God but he is terrified of the presence of God.

There is a difference between the power and the presence. All too often we dwell looking for the power of God to fix us and our situations and when it is not given or doesn’t show up then we are lost.

Jezebel didn’t turn tail and run but she dug in even more threatening to kill Elijah because of what he had done. The Devil is not afraid of the power of God he is terrified of the presence of God.

When we plead the blood of Jesus it doesn’t bring the power but it evokes his presence and his power to do battle on our behalf. Elijah realizes that he in his power has failed so he flees. He asked God to kill him because he realized in his power he was nothing. But this is where God’s wants us. He wants us to understand that we can’t fix it or fix us.

So God begins to feed Elijah…And he wants to feed us his word. He knows the more we feed on Him the stronger his presence becomes in us. Elijah gains peace when he learns to listen for God’s voice then to seek his power.

It is in God’s small still voice that victory and peace is waiting for you.

Jesus said my sheep know my voice!

If you need peace today listen for your answer of hope and strength by following the voice of God and stop looking for the power.

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Forgiveness…The Milk For The Heart

Forgiveness is the milk for the heart. This is a hard thing to forgive.  It is hard to forgive someone that has wounded you deeply.  If the truth can be told sometimes it can be hard to forgive yourself for causing the offence.

However, this was the very premise by which  Jesus taught. Jesus taught pray for those that despitefully use you…even if they betray you with a kiss. So I pray that we will each learn to forgive in the good and bad times.

I pray that God will be able to soften our hearts where we have felt the need to build walls to protect them.

Don’t go another day feeling bitter. Let the joy and love in your heart heal some one else while it is healing you.

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Why Happiness Alone Can’t Sustain You

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One of the happiest moments in life was when I realized that life was not defined by happiness but by joy in Jesus.-The Blueprint-

Happiness is such a controversial word in my opinion because many people find themselves imprisoned by the meaning of this word. Truly if we were to analyze happiness we would realize that it is a state of being not an absolute. Happiness is circumstantial at best. 

Consequently, it is a feeling solely based on conditions, never concrete. If you were to show me 5 people that were happy…I could show you 5 more that were unhappy because of trying circumstances and events that were out of their control.

Happiness is an emotion that is always changing. It lacks depth and the deeply planted roots needed to build a stable foundation upon.  
What do you mean?  Thanks for asking… Happiness says in essences if I feel happy today, if everything around me is conducive to my happiness, then guess what?… I feel happy today. But by some chance my circumstances don’t provide me an atmosphere that is conducive to my happiness. ..then somebody better watch out, now I am on the warpath because I am not happy today.

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Happiness is predicated on condition not facts. We may not feel happy today but God is still good. Fact not condition.

 Consider this? We can wake up in the morning and hear the birds chirping,  the angels singing because we feel happy today.  However, if life hands us a plate of disappointments then there is a good chance that we will no longer feel happy. That is chilling right?

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We can’t build our proverbial houses on happiness because eventually they will colasp.

The conditions of life can and will alter our attitudes and possibly rob us of our happiness if we will allow our feelings to dictate to us the direction for our lives.

 The seesaw, (The Feeling of Happiness) has claimed many marriages, friendships and has weakend our relationships with God. The feeling of euphoria that was once present when we received Jesus over time will leave us.

Have you ever heard people say, “I don’t feel saved or we have just fallen out of love?” Can I say this? Love and Salvation are not feelings they are choices. We choose to love our spouses or not. We choose to live submitted and consecrated lives to God or not.

Nehemiah had to remind the Israelites when Ezra was reading the word of God that it wasn’t a time to weep but it was a time to rejoice. He had to remind them that their strength was found in the joy of the Lord and that His words are spirit and they are alive.

We too must realize that when I am happy God has my back, when my enemies are present God has my back and when I am feeling sad God has my back.   We must realize that we are not defined by our happiness. When we dont feel happy we are still strong because we have His joy, evelasting joy! It doesn’t matter about our conditions because God never, ever changes, he is always absolute. 

Nehemiah 8:10 kjv

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