Make This Your Year Of Independence 

If you want heartburn try eating everything.

No matter what you do you will not be able to please everyone.  So why try? You know coming out of last year I felt the need for detoxification.  No, it is not what you think! I wanted to detoxify from people.

Yes, people.  I have watched others,  including myself, at times fall viticm to people pleasing. I have allowed some people knowingly and unknowingly to control parts of my life. It is one of those behavioural patterns that left me scratching my head.  I would sometimes say to myself, “what were you thinking signing on to that crap.”

People pleasing can become counter-productive to your success, if not, checked at the door.  I find myself becoming so irritated when I see people allowing themselves to become someones doormat for a, “that’s a good boy!” 

I have witnessed over the years the destructive effects of people that have loss a since of themselves because they have allowed others to control their lives.  Witnessing adults that can’t make sound decisions because they are so afraid of being singled out and ostracized is a sobering reminder, people pleasing is a destructive behavior. 

Possessing within oneself the strength to say, “No” is a powerful and sought after quality in my opinion.  To have ownership of ones life is a must.  It is a sobering reminder that we must harold and respect appropriate boundaries for our lives. 

I believe that if we live our lives to please God then we won’t spend so much time trying to please others.

So I have come up with my mantra and you can rock it too…,

“It’s time to detoxify.”

 I have made up my mind that I will rid myself of hurtful and harmful habits and emotions such as people pleasing.

People pleasing can be extremely harmful to our mental health and self-esteem. You don’t have to look any further than social media to see the devasting effects of people addiction.  

Likes and dislikes have become the new form of people pleasing and some people will almost kill themselves to trend in likes.

We have to combat and confront such harmful patterns of self-deprivation and ineptitude.  We must begin to form and practice good habits of self-love. We must strive to see ourselves in a positive light.

How we see ourselves is so important to how we treat and let others treat us.  Why should someone else respect you when you don’t respect yourself? We must practice good habits and detoxify our minds from the grips of people pleasing.

Serving others and caring for them with respect and love can be extremely valuable.  However, when we allow ourselves to be self-serving trying to please others to please ourselves, we cause great emotional and mental harm to ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to see people happy.

The problem comes in when we allow other peoples desires to become idols to us.

For example: We can’t sleep unless everyone is pleased with our decisions.

This kind of behaviour is a problem. We should do our best to be fair to all. But the key is not to lose ourselves in pleasing others to the point of making idols out of them.

Stop waiting for people to sanction your every move. We must trust God to direct us and put the right people in our paths to take us to the next level. 

Pray while you’re moving.  Make a God sought decision for your life by prayer, thoughtfulness and trusting that God will not steer you wrong.

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Becoming A Better Me for Jesus Christ Part 2.” on YouTube

This video is about having the desire to become a better you in Jesus Christ.  You know we should just try to become a better person in life period in my opinion?

Everyday we wake up the question should be to God, “How can I be better for you today?”

It is easy to point the finger at others. However, the only life you can change is yours.  If we want better then we must first do better.

God has really spoken to me on how important it is to take responsibility for the seed you sow.  We are always looking for a harvest.  But sometimes we don’t want to be responsible for the seed (The Work that it takes to make it happen).

We oftentimes have the tendency not to take responsibility for our actions.  If we talk to some people it is everyone elses fought but theirs.  If they would have done this my life would be better…  Well I would say to that person they didn’t do it… , “So what are you going to do with your life?”

 If we want to grow in our walk with God then we must be able to look at that person in the mirror.  This can be an extremely difficult thing to do.  Confronting ourselves actually can be so intimidating sometimes.  Why?

When we truly confront ourselves we are saying, “I am ready to deal with it all (the shame, guilt, the wins and oh boy the losses).”

That person in the mirror has the capacity to do great things if we will accept our wins and build and correct our losses.


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   Where Is The Love?

It is amazing how God ranks love over works.  We may be the best Deacons, Usher, Pastors, Singers, Servers and Churchgoers this side of heaven.  But if we are void of love everything we do amounts to nothing.

Wow! Deep huh? Lord, I helped little Katy rescue Ms. Fuzzy out of the tree. I gave my entire check to feed the poor. I donated cases and cases of water to Flint Michigan. However, I can hear God say, “But without love these works amount to nothing.”

I can truly say, I have been guilty of offering God works packaged in a box called love. Nevertheless, my box was probably worthless because it wasn’t wrapped in true heart felt love for God or my fellow man.

Do you know we can preach doctrine that is correct but be morally out of the will God?

Scripture tells us in 1John 4:20-21, “If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.”

There is so much hatred in the world for our fellow man because of their skin color, religion, gender or ethnicity in my opinion. We should be able to disagree with a person on the foundation of the scripture and not harvest hatred for them because they are different.

If we are Christians then we should be leading the way in love.

Nevertheless, Christians can be some of the most hateful and mean-spirited people all in the name of God.

If our hearts are filled with this kind of impediment then we need to ask Jesus to heal our hearts. We need to ask the Lord to wash us from our shortcomings and then begin to do His will.

Love must be that which can transcend beyond the physical and impact the spiritual. The only way to possess a love like this is to accept the love that Jesus shows all humanity. Jesus loves humanity with a supernatural love. His loves goes beyond the limits of earthly means and loves us in away that can’t be fully comprehended.

We are the most undeserving people in the world. However, Jesus’ love covers us. His love comforts us and His love keeps us.

Jesus’ love transcends Christanity, it even extends to non-believers. However, non-believers can’t receive the free gift of life (Salvation). Subsequently, His love does offer them a chance to inherit eternal life barring that they (The non-believer) accept Jesus as their personal Savior and Lord.

You know…God is not like man. He doesn’t champion the construction of tall skyscrapers or super important jobs.  God wants us to focus on the hardest job there is…Love.

He wants us to love without limits.  He wants us to love our enemies, backstabbing friends, difficult spouses, pain in the neck family memebers.

Lets us seek to build a life of godly love. Let us aspire to please God with a love that brings him glory. Love that does not disqualify our works is a love made by God.

God is so amazing because he had to do the same with us.  He had to love the unlovable, he had to love the sneaky, he loves the rude and uncaring.

And you know what? He is still loving us today.

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Words Of Life…Spoken Word – SoundCloud

Listen to Words Of Life…Spoken Word by Mike Anthoni 

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Stay In Character Finding Your Space Between The Lines

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I am reminded of one year when my wife (Nicole) took me to a dinner theater. It was so great. We had a beautiful dinner and one of the highlights of that evening was that the dinner was served by the actors. The cast served us dinner. However, though they were serving us dinner they never got out of character.

Just imagine the villain of the show serving you New York Strip with a big steak knife in their hands….Hmmm…Scary!

But for the cast to be successful for the next half of the show they had to remain embodied in character.

Stay In Character and Remember Your Lines

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I believe that we should take the same approach as Christians. We must understand how important it is to stay in character. We may be faced with different challenges in life but we must work hard to remember our roles and follow the script (The Holy Bible) that God has written for us.

We are human and being human hurts at times.  However, this doesn’t let us off the hook for being rude, mean, vindictive and loveless.  God has reassured us in his word that if we maintain our integrity he will vindicate us.

Do you remember in scripture when God said, “Vengeance is mine said the Lord I will repay?”  God was telling us that it is better for him to deal with the situation of getting even with our perpetrators.  Why?  God wants us to be guiltless, pure and holy.  However, when we allow bitterness, anger, rage and revenge to drive us then we pollute our hearts.

God wants to protect us from such things because these behaviors become a breeding ground for Satan.  Satan loves darkness, filth and unclean places. 

Remember this:

Satan will always show up and live in places that God has vacated.

The Bible says in Matthew 12:43-45,

“When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none.  Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order.  Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first. So shall it also be with this wicked generation.”

So this is why God wants our hearts to stay clean, holy and righteous.  He wants our temples to be a place where He can dwell and also offer us love and protection from the evil one. 

When we are the temple of the Lord then we have access to our Father’s love, power, authority, presence and protections.

Jesus said in Luke 10:18-20,

“And He said to them, I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.  Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means hurt you.  Nevertheless do not rejoice in this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rather rejoice because your names are written in heaven.”

Wow! Because we are His we inherit the blessings of God. So this is why we must stay in character.  I know it is a challenge to love your offender, to be kind to bad actors in your life. But this is the will of God concerning us (Believers).

Now, I believe we must excerise some common sense as well when making decisions.

If a person is mistreating you (being abusive verbally, mentally and or physically)then you don’t have to stay with that person. But we can forgive them and show them mercy from afar. We can still show them the love of Jesus though we go our separate ways.

God’s Grace and Mercy Can Revive the Heart

I remember when I did something so stupid and instead of my wife just ripping me a new one she instead showed me kindness and demonstrated the love of Jesus. You can’t believe how just staying in her role as a Christian impacted my life. My heart was melted within me and that simple act of kindness and mercy made me want to work hard to do right by her.

She stayed in character and God blessed her.

Well, I could go on and on about this situation but I just wanted to leave you with this. Don’t let bad actors steal your greatest role (showing forth the character of God).

Sometimes God’s blessings will come in the most stressful of situations. But let God be the one to administer vengeance on our behalf.
May God bless your life tremendously!

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We need to pray and ask God to help us protect our character.  It is so easy to get out of our godly character in order to show someone how much they have hurt us. However, when we trade our character for mere vengeance we give Satan a place to hang his coat and hat in our temples.

Pray this prayer with me:

Prayer

Father in the name of Jesus God we come to you Lord asking you Father for your grace and your mercy. Praying God that you will keep us from the attack of the enemy. God help us Lord to be better people, to be change agents for your kingdom. Give us patience even in the most difficult situations. Help us Lord when we are on the brink of losing control. Lord give us directions. Help us demonstrate control. Keep us from all hurt, harm and danger. Help us not to take matters into our own hands when we have been wounded and hurt by others. Lord we thank you and bless you in Jesus name Amen.

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From Training Wheels To Ten Speeds

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Life will be made or broken at the place where we meet and deal with obstacles.

E. Stanley Jones

Sometimes we may encounter let downs…Some one may get the promotion over us, we may be down sized on our jobs, a person that was once our subordinate has now become our boss. 

We will all suffer set backs and disappointments in our lives.

  But what we do in those situations will ultimately shape who we are.

Immature people will become jealous and hate on the person that was rewarded the promotion in their stead. A mature person will feel hurt and looked over but they realize that they have a job to do and there will be something better along the way.

Which one are you?  How is your character? Do you turn into the green eyed monster or do you suffer disappointment and recognize that feelings of jealously and immaturity are not for the mature and get back in line?

If we all can be honest…We have experienced what it feels like to be left out and how it feels to be slightly envious of another. However, we don’t have to stay there. Jesus has given us power over the flesh to live a life of maturity.

Yes, someone you feel that is less deserving may get that promotion but what are you going to do? How are you going to act?

So wherever you fall look to improve, none of us are finished products. We have Jesus for a reason and those that are his servants know what the reason is (we are a mess without Him).

So keep this in mind: Adversity doesn’t have to derail us it truly can make us better.