Make This Your Year Of Independence 

If you want heartburn try eating everything.

No matter what you do you will not be able to please everyone.  So why try? You know coming out of last year I felt the need for detoxification.  No, it is not what you think! I wanted to detoxify from people.

Yes, people.  I have watched others,  including myself, at times fall viticm to people pleasing. I have allowed some people knowingly and unknowingly to control parts of my life. It is one of those behavioural patterns that left me scratching my head.  I would sometimes say to myself, “what were you thinking signing on to that crap.”

People pleasing can become counter-productive to your success, if not, checked at the door.  I find myself becoming so irritated when I see people allowing themselves to become someones doormat for a, “that’s a good boy!” 

I have witnessed over the years the destructive effects of people that have loss a since of themselves because they have allowed others to control their lives.  Witnessing adults that can’t make sound decisions because they are so afraid of being singled out and ostracized is a sobering reminder, people pleasing is a destructive behavior. 

Possessing within oneself the strength to say, “No” is a powerful and sought after quality in my opinion.  To have ownership of ones life is a must.  It is a sobering reminder that we must harold and respect appropriate boundaries for our lives. 

I believe that if we live our lives to please God then we won’t spend so much time trying to please others.

So I have come up with my mantra and you can rock it too…,

“It’s time to detoxify.”

 I have made up my mind that I will rid myself of hurtful and harmful habits and emotions such as people pleasing.

People pleasing can be extremely harmful to our mental health and self-esteem. You don’t have to look any further than social media to see the devasting effects of people addiction.  

Likes and dislikes have become the new form of people pleasing and some people will almost kill themselves to trend in likes.

We have to combat and confront such harmful patterns of self-deprivation and ineptitude.  We must begin to form and practice good habits of self-love. We must strive to see ourselves in a positive light.

How we see ourselves is so important to how we treat and let others treat us.  Why should someone else respect you when you don’t respect yourself? We must practice good habits and detoxify our minds from the grips of people pleasing.

Serving others and caring for them with respect and love can be extremely valuable.  However, when we allow ourselves to be self-serving trying to please others to please ourselves, we cause great emotional and mental harm to ourselves.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to see people happy.

The problem comes in when we allow other peoples desires to become idols to us.

For example: We can’t sleep unless everyone is pleased with our decisions.

This kind of behaviour is a problem. We should do our best to be fair to all. But the key is not to lose ourselves in pleasing others to the point of making idols out of them.

Stop waiting for people to sanction your every move. We must trust God to direct us and put the right people in our paths to take us to the next level. 

Pray while you’re moving.  Make a God sought decision for your life by prayer, thoughtfulness and trusting that God will not steer you wrong.

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Becoming A Better Me for Jesus Christ Part 2.” on YouTube

This video is about having the desire to become a better you in Jesus Christ.  You know we should just try to become a better person in life period in my opinion?

Everyday we wake up the question should be to God, “How can I be better for you today?”

It is easy to point the finger at others. However, the only life you can change is yours.  If we want better then we must first do better.

God has really spoken to me on how important it is to take responsibility for the seed you sow.  We are always looking for a harvest.  But sometimes we don’t want to be responsible for the seed (The Work that it takes to make it happen).

We oftentimes have the tendency not to take responsibility for our actions.  If we talk to some people it is everyone elses fought but theirs.  If they would have done this my life would be better…  Well I would say to that person they didn’t do it… , “So what are you going to do with your life?”

 If we want to grow in our walk with God then we must be able to look at that person in the mirror.  This can be an extremely difficult thing to do.  Confronting ourselves actually can be so intimidating sometimes.  Why?

When we truly confront ourselves we are saying, “I am ready to deal with it all (the shame, guilt, the wins and oh boy the losses).”

That person in the mirror has the capacity to do great things if we will accept our wins and build and correct our losses.


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Abundant Thinkers 

A replica plane that the Wright Brothers Flew.

We journeyed to Kitty Hawk N.C to vacation.  While on vacation we embarked on a life changing mission to see where the Wright Brothers changed history forever.

This is a marker of the first successful flight..

The Bible says, “don’t despise small beginnings.”

 This is where I had to improve my thinking.

 I use to equate success with fulfillment.  However, this concept of thought is flawed and dangerous.  True success is built from many wins and losses.  When we fail if we are wise we will look to see what could we’ve learned from our setbacks? And how much success did I achieve in my attempt to succeed?

Yard Marker two the flight was only 5 seconds.

Yard Marker three the flight was 10 seconds longer then the first.

Yard Marker four the final test was 59 seconds.

I believe it is not until we appreciate our failures as well as our successes that we can start experiencing true and lasting progress in our endeavors.  The Wright Brother’s figured this concept out.

 They realized that as long they were progressing forward toward their goal they were truly having lasting success.